How to keep your relationship healthy?

“For some a Prologue,

For some an epilogue.”

Happy Valentine's Day 🤍✨ 

What is a Relationship?

A relationship is the state of being connected to another person, place, or thing. There are relationships amongst almost everything in our environment. The relationship between the sun and the moon. The relationship between the food we digest and our cholesterol levels.The relationships between people-The relationship between a mother and daughter, father and son, brother and sister, friends etc.

However, a relationship between partners impact many aspects of a person’s life  including daily routines, mood, social life, and where we live. It is for these reasons that it is important to establish and maintain a healthy and positive relationship with our partners.🤍

Now Let's talk about the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationship . 

Healthy Relationships: 

Respect Boundaries: No means no. They will not persuade or force you to do things that make you uncomfortable or repulsive. 

Encourages Growth: We never stop growing and healthy relationships encourage growth. Support systems are essential. 

Honest Communication: Being able to say "I feel ___ ____" is one of the most powerful aspects of communication I've ever learned, even though it's so simple. 

Willingness to compromise: The ability to meet in the middle is also important. It's a delicate balance between the wants and needs of everyone involved. 

Growing together: Your relationship is not the same as when you started dating, instead of wishing for the past, embrace these changes. 

Solves problems: Ignoring problems breeds resentment. Even if you hate socializing, do it anyway. 

Acknowledge feelings: Even if you don't agree with or understand your partner's feelings, you must respect their right to feel what they feel, while acknowledging their point of view. 

Focus on the solution: focus on solving problems together rather than on who is "in the wrong". 

Respect independence: You can be friends and you can be alone when you need it, both healthy. 

Knowing your love language: Understanding your partner's love language means you love them in a way they can easily understand. Some people feel loved by kind gestures, others by words, affection or gifts. 

Trust: It builds on the stability and foundation you built together. It depends on another person. 

Unhealthy Relationships: 

Ignores Boundaries: Manipulates, tricks you into doing things you don't want to do. 

Resents growth: does not celebrate personal milestones and does not criticize positive changes. 

Lies and Manipulation: Instead of communicating in a way that hears both people, lie and manipulate results that benefit only one person. 

Walking on eggshells: One partner is afraid to disturb or communicate honestly with the other. 

Control: You feel compelled to be what someone else wants you to be. 

No Empathy or Sympathy: Your feelings are never valid. You are always wrong or stupid. 

Feelings are ignored: When you express your feelings or opinions, they are ignored or dismissed. 

Breakup cycles: There is no stability in your relationship and during each breakup. 

Focuses on the blame: instead of looking for solutions to problems, one always turns to who is at fault or who is wrong. 

Destroys Self-Esteem: Destroys your self-esteem and makes you feel unlovable. 

Lack of trust: You don't trust your partner or the foundation of your relationship. 

Thus, Healthy, functional relationships have these characteristics, which mainly apply to committed romantic relationships. They shouldn't be optional. And when they are missing, it's important to address the problem and Seek professional help.

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Written By :

Swathy Kishore